I visited my friend out of town. After what I saw, I don't know if I can stay at her house again.
Key Points:
- A reader with severe pet allergies visited a friend whose home was extremely dirty and caused the reader to get sick, raising concerns about how to address the issue tactfully.
- Dear Prudence advises focusing on protecting one’s own health by declining future visits unless the friend invites them back, then explaining the allergy issue clearly and suggesting meeting elsewhere.
- The column emphasizes separating concerns about the friend’s mental health and housekeeping struggles from the reader’s need to avoid allergic reactions.
- It is acknowledged that even a cleaner home with pets might not be suitable for severe allergies, and pushing the friend to meet high cleanliness standards may be unrealistic.