My fiancée reconnected with her useless mother. Now she has some new "ideas" about what our life should look like.

Key Points:

• A fiancée's renewed contact with her narcissistic mother, who is unreliable and obsessed with grandchildren, is causing tension as she pushes for having a baby despite financial and practical concerns.
• The fiancé expresses concern over repeating the mother's unrealistic promises and the impact on their future, highlighting a shift from previous therapy-driven boundaries to increased influence by the mother.
• Dear Prudence advises reconsidering the marriage if fundamental disagreements about children, finances, and family relationships persist, emphasizing the importance of being aligned on major life decisions before marriage.
• Another letter addresses anxiety in a new relationship where the partner seems "too perfect," suggesting the anxiety stems from self-doubt rather than the partner's behavior and recommending self-work, therapy, and anxiety management techniques.
• A third letter discusses seeking platonic, supportive relationships with older adults to fill familial voids caused by childhood abuse and estrangement, with advice to engage in community activities and ensure emotional support through therapy before forming new bonds.