My wife doesn't want to use her eggs to create a baby with me. It makes me sad.
Slate • • health
Key Points:
- A couple is conflicted about having children due to the wife's family history of serious psychiatric disorders; she prefers adoption or using an egg donor to avoid passing on genetic risks.
- The wife feels strongly that she "lucked out" genetically and does not want to risk passing on mental illness, while the husband wants a biological child with both their genes.
- The advice column supports the wife's choice, emphasizing that using her eggs is her decision and that adopting or using a donor egg reduces the known genetic risk and associated guilt.
- The column encourages the husband to accept the situation and highlights that parenting and the home environment are as important as genetics in shaping a child.
- The newsletter also briefly mentions an unrelated unresolved family murder case from the 1980s involving the writer's father and a shocking revelation from a dying grandmother.
